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Don’t Focus on the Background Music

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There is a very good possibility for a heart patient to die if his surgeon watches a drama whilst doing the patients bypass surgery?

I have seen many students trying to study whist listening to music on headphones. If you ask them what they studied they will find it difficult to elaborate comprehensively. I am not surprised if they utter few lines of one of the songs they were hearing whilst studying. Many people are completely at a loss because of their vague and ill directed focus.

There is a possibility that you would hit the electricity post on the road if you keep walking looking at a beautiful girl on the other side of the road. This happens when your eyes drift from its original purpose which is walking from point A to B. The main reason you should focus on a given time is your purpose for that period. The purpose of a moment is based on the main role of responsibility that you have to fulfill in that given time.

If you are a person who doing a senior management job which needs intensive thinking and if you tend to work with music on you will not understand that you are investing a part of your thought process to the music which prevents you from investing your fullest focus on your job responsibilities. Are you browsing your social media networks whilst spending time with your loved ones?

If so, you are not different to a man who tries to kiss his lover whilst driving as the kiss do not get its fullest attention which it ought to get. Or else you may meet with an accident as driving doesn’t get the fullest attention. But if you stop driving and attend to the kissing then both the activities will get due recognition unless none of it will reach its fullest potential.

Don’t fight the wrong battles. If a farmer who is ploughing tries to stop a stray dog who continuously barks at him, he will not be able to complete ploughing.

Let the dog bark as its barking can never stop you from ploughing. How many of you are fighting the battles that you shouldn’t even think of battling? The success of an activity remains on the detailed attention you put towards an activity. Life is alike a surgery and you need to be so vigilant and attentive to every moment unless you will miss the beauty of that moment.

If it is a painful moment try to absorb that pain on its purest form rather than trying to dilute it as you will never get molded to the maximum if you dilute the pain. But if you think the pain is too much for your capacity then it is alright to seek help unless your system will collapse. Recently a three-wheeler driver scolds me in raw filth for nothing and even though I was right I told him sorry as that was the sweetest way to ignore an unnecessary battle that I should not focus on.

I have seen many gentlemen getting into arguments and fights with three-wheeler and bus drivers by shifting from their original purposes. Just imagine how many good moments you have you been unable to feel because of getting into an unnecessary argument with an irrelevant person down the line on your way towards attending a beautiful moment.

A father loses the opportunity of feeling the maximum satisfaction he could have gained from his daughter’s graduation simply because of an argument he gets into with a three-wheeler driver regarding an unwanted issue.

Teach your children not to fight with mad dogs as for them there is no other purpose than barking at everyone who passes its territory but for you you’ve got a family to feed and a life to live. In case if you die because that mad dog bit you there will be no one to feed your family.

Therefore, it is wise to burn your ego and feed your purpose than feeding your ego and burning your purpose. Pride is a venomous poison whereas humility is an expensive jewelry. Which one would you like to possess? I was feeding a foolish ego for many years till I got to know that I was petting a dangerous snake. All what I have been doing was wearing an oversized dress and walked a walk of somebody else.

The moment I removed that fake dress and walked the walk of mine I understood how soft and comfortable life is. Therefore, do not listen to the background music when you are ought to listen to the presentation which is above that background music.

Recently I saw a world class batsmen getting out to his opponent bowler after the bowler purposely aroused anger in the batsman with few heated words after the previous ball.

The batsmen could have easily scored a century if he did not get drifted from his original focus from scoring a hundred to an unnecessary battle which his competitor smartly created with the use of two arrogant words. For how many unnecessary battles do we fall prey to purely because of our poor focus on the original purpose. Therefore, let us be determined to focus on the original purpose of a moment and learn to train our minds to ignore unnecessary battles as well as irrelevant background issues.

It is so unfortunate to see people setting their dreams based on the lifestyle of their neighbor whereas they should set goals based on their capacity.

Also, it is so sad to see people eating too much of appetizers and lose the opportunity of enjoying a lovely scrumptious main course. Therefore, train your mind to define and prioritise the issues by scaling them based on their interest and impact on your life. Then you could decide what to fight and what not to fight.

And even the ones you decide to fight you should you should decide as to which extent you should fight. There are times that you should stop your fight simply from an SMS and times that you have to personally have a one to one discussion with the other party to arrive at a resolution.

Majority of times learn to walk away with a simple sorry and a sentimental smile. Pride will always say that saying sorry will degrade your personality but the truth is that by saying sorry you are enhancing your maturity by ignoring mad dogs who are continuously barking without no reason.

But if you fail to ignore the background issues you will fall prey to some unwanted problems. It is so foolish to bath your three puppies from the limited water you have when there is a twenty eight hour (28 hour) water cut in your area.

Your puppies will be happy but your children will be sad as then they will not have water to even wash their faces.

Who is actually important to you out of these two categories, puppies or your children? Similar to this you will always have to make a selection regarding the purpose of a moment.

I have taken many wrong decisions in my life simply listening to the voices of passengers who were in my life.

If you want to lose your weight don’t listen to the voice which craves for junk, if you are studying hard to gain a good grade then ignore the grumbling voice enticing you to sleep excessively, if you are driving for career success ignore the voice on procrastination, if you are desire to love people forgo the hurting pains you had to go through when doing do, if you want to focus on your job leave aside the criticism your colleagues make when you stretch for the utmost.

Background music is irrelevant. What is important is the main presentation above the background music.

If so, you are not different to a man who tries to kiss his lover whilst driving as the kiss do not get its fullest attention which it ought to get. Or else you may meet with an accident as driving doesn’t get the fullest attention. But if you stop driving and attend to the kissing then both the activities will get due recognition unless none of it will reach its fullest potential

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